Following EDIT2, this answer is obsolete.
Note that you're not supposed to write configuration like that to /lib/. I hope you (or another admin) simply created it there by mistake, and there is not a more complex problem. In that case you can just revert it, i.e.
rm /lib/systemd/system/getty.target.wants/[email protected]
Then you can reboot. (Or run systemctl daemon-reload, and check again to see that the service has been disabled properly).
Before deleting the file, I might double-check that the unwanted link is not provided by a package
dpkg-query -S /lib/systemd/system/getty.target.wants/[email protected]
and that it is indeed a symlink
ls -l /lib/systemd/system/getty.target.wants/[email protected]
You can also check for other files which were placed inappropriately by an admin. Install the Debian package cruft, and run cruft -d "/lib/systemd/system".