If you have MySQL running a simple ps ax | grep mysql will yeld the process path.
Otherwise search your fs for mysqld it will take some time but will get the job done:
sudo find / -type f -name "mysqld"
A find / | grep mysql will print every file containing mysql in its name.
Use MySQLWorkbench, it has a nice GUI which lets you configure INNODBs data path and will also help you managing your instances.
Otherwise edit /etc/my.cnf (or create it if you don't have any) insert a [mysqld] section and set innodb_data_home_dir = /path/to/where/you/moved/your/data
[mysqld]
innodb_data_home_dir = /path/to/where/you/moved/your/data